the-vu

By Leonardo Calcagno

Romance in the workplace has become quite acceptable. With more liberated sexual mores and more women in the workplace [thank God!], work has become one of the better places for men and women to meet, date, mate and have wild sex. But office romance has more consequences than just plain sex; when sex politics are involved, it can have problematic repercussions when a fling becomes a management problem that creates havoc. Gossip among cubicles becomes an epidemic. A reputation as a “Ladder Whore” is easily spread like cheap jam.

I, however, think that sex on the job is about the only positive aspect of working at all.

So Does Lisa A. Mainiero, author of “Office Romance.” She says work liaisons can improve office morale; motivate employees, encourage creativity and innovation, and boost productivity. It can soften work-related personality conflicts, improve teamwork, communication and cooperation. When office lovers hold jobs in different departments, they serve as a channel for communication. From an executive point of view, office romance can be used as a recruitment and retention device to stabilize the workforce.

The Players:

Ana, a secretary for a law firm
Melanie, a music executive
Sandra, a Web designer
Carlos, a business consultant

Leonardo: Had any good sex at the office?

Ana: Twice! Once with this cute guy in accounting. I was working late, and since I was watching his firm butt for two months and waiting to just attack him, we had sex on my desk. It was fantastic. I also had sex with a co-worker after a couple of drinks. I found out later that he was married. After the deed, he became a pain in the ass for two months… making dirty jokes, trying to repeat the experience. His wife found out and they got divorced.

Melanie: A couple of time, ha! ha! ha! ha! ha!….I work in the music business and there’s always these cute musicians around that I just feel like devouring! I’m a little bit slutty, but I lovvvve men! Once, I went out for two months with this guy in the shipping division. He turnout to be a stalker, calling me all the time and coming to my office to see if I was there! A total asshole.

Sandra: Only once I had a one-night-stand at an office party. The next day I was so embarrassed because al of a sudden, I was the bitch at the office. There were rumors about me having sex with every male at the party… anyway I was depressed for over a month, and broke up with my 3-year boyfriend when I told him what happened! Personally, I will never do it again!

Carlos: It’s hard to meet gay men in the business world, but I had a couple of hot steamy sex sessions in the office when I began working! I’m only 26 years old, no bad experiences. I met my lover John at my firm and we’ve been going out for almost a year.
Danger and how to avoid it!

As we can see every case is different, depending the circumstances. Forget those magazine quizzes, every person is different and the emotional equation from each one of us can’t be analyzed, categorized or be understood. Realities and risk of romance at work can threaten career advancement, ruin professional relationships, cause co-worker confusion and scorn, may cause work performance to decline, lead to self-doubt and loss of objectivity, generate competition and conflicts, and generate professional conflicts of interest. To avoid such danger and minimize the risk of complication at work and more importantly your boss:

Maintain an outstanding work record, so that career advancement will not be a threat. What’s important in business is a good performance, this will be your best defense.

Keep your objectivity in business decisions. Never mix work ‘n’ pleasure when handling decisions. This will be seen as personal integrity and dignity, keeping away worker animosity and management reprisals.

Have a breakup plan when thinks get out of hand.

Anticipating potential problems is the best solution. Be a little paranoid.

Dating your boss: watch your back!

One of the biggest risks of dating on the job is falling for the BOSS! The temptation to use power by an upper executive to get you into bed is easy… remember we are human and power games in sex become a reality at work. If you break up with your superior, she may use her power to fire you or make your life in the office a living hell. If you are a secretary, remember that you have no power and in the corporate world you are seen as a minor player and easy to replace. Love in the real world is based on respect and equality. If you are a subordinate in love and work, your relationship becomes an unbalanced power struggle.

Before any emotional or sexual involvement at the office, ask yourself these questions and follow our rules to nookie at work:

What’s the potential risk to your career advancement?

Try not to date your superiors.

Make a thick wall between your personal and professional life.

If it’s a one-night nightmanre, be sure he or she understands this!

Clarify from the beginning to each other what do you want from the relationship!

Anticipate possible conflict-of-interest

Are you prepared to the possibly negative reaction from your colleagues and superiors?

Be aware of office norms about romance before anything!

Sex at work is not all that bad. The only thing is to watch your back and understand the limits of your sexual pleasure at work… enjoy!

Leonardo Calcagno, well know writer in Montreal Canada. He’s been writing for local Canadian, Americano and European e-zines and zines in French, Spanish and English for almost 5 years. More known to get hate letters from right-wing housewives and to get into fights with promoters who don’t let him interview bands! You will mostly see him eating tofu dogs and drinking Guinness with his laptop in Montreal writing another article about politics, music and sex. Graduated with a bachelor degree in International Politics with a minor on international law… his parents are still wondering why he took on a life of sex writer! Tattooed with Che, Husker Du and ARA! Played chino-Hispanic punk on Les Kalisses D’immigrant, Trash Blues on Les Tetes Reduites and now stoner rock on Your Sister ! He contributes on Freezerbox.com, Kerozen, Indymedia.org, Stooky.com, Eroticandy.com, Biotech Montreal Action, QuebecTel, Zona de Obra and other zines!

For more of Leonardo’s work, please visit www.montrealnightguide.com and www.montrealconfidential.com

By G.E. Nordell

“The individual can take initiatives without anybody’s permission.”
R. Buckminster Fuller

Urgency

In reference to Ayn Rand and her statements about Mankind’s Highest Value being that of Survival, I am, I guess, quite cynical in that I believe that Mankind is on its way to non-survival: that is, that Mankind [currently Homo sapiens] will soon die out, like the dinosaurs and the species Homo erectus that preceded us. The growing ozone hole; square miles of Alaskan tundra thawing each day; the poisons in our oceans and rivers and bodies; the poisons in our society; the burning of the ‘lungs of the Earth’, the Amazon rain-forest; the death of coral reefs around the planet; the freaky weather – all are demonstrations that the current path of Mankind is leading to an unconscious self-destruction. The Culture Structure that is supposed to ensure our survival is instead pointed directly to species suicide.

I say that the very survival of this species that you and I belong to requires of us all an extraordinary effort that is not now being generated, at least not inside the Culture Structure. This species must bring into use the 90% of the human brain that lies fallow in unconsciousness; the species must direct major effort toward overcoming the existing mess – ecologically, economically, ontologically; increasing numbers of members of Mankind must develop new personal skills to prevent our predictable future, which is non-survival.

There is Something inherent in the unused and unfulfilled potential of this species, possibly to take shape as a new species [which I designate Homo cogitus: Reasoning Man], and we must bring forth that Something or else the cetaceans will be left as rulers of the planet.

The intention of my book “Working Minds: A Philosophy of Empowerment” is to reach and enroll one reader at a time into individual and active concern for the terrible urgency of the modern situation, so that eventually folks with developing and mature Working Minds will find themselves working in concert, working together as individuals to generate Empowerment, to fulfill each individual’s potential, so that Mankind can fulfill its dormant potential – without which Mankind will not indeed survive.

Said another way, Mankind will not survive by complacency, by half-heartedly attempting the survival of our present institutions; Mankind must fulfill its potential – great numbers of individuals must do so, in many and various forms – or Mankind will simply die out.

And you the reader – and you members of We The Living and other Objectivist groups – must take this on, and pass the urgency on to others, or Mankind has no future.

copyright 1999 by Gary Edward Nordell, all rights reserved

The preceding is an excerpt from Chapter One of G.E. Nordell’s forthcoming book, “Working Minds: A Philosophy of Empowerment”. An excerpt of which is also posted on the Working Minds website Working Minds.

By Leonardo Calcagno

With a song titled “Drink Beer and Fuck” on the album Porn to Rock, you have a sense that Nina Whett could perhaps be the ultimate fantasy for the testosterone set. Porn star, musician, actress, professional dom and writer, Nina Whett is a renaissance woman on her own terms. She’ll take any man or woman on a smart and sexually charged ride capable of melting any gender. Don’t be scared; she will rock your world if you let this former wrestling champ into your life. Meet Nina Whett, the woman, the gladiator sex goddess.

Leo: Tell us about yourself?

Nina Whett: You may have seen me on the VH1 special “Porn to Rock” or on Playboy’s “Sexcetra.” I’ve also been in several men’s magazines and have a new layout coming up in High Society that I did with Taylor St. Claire and one of our sexy boy toys. Also I was a Pro-Wrestler for over five years and have toured all over the world with CA WOW, Gladiator Girls, CA Heat, BLOW, and was 5-year CA WOW champion. In addition to all of that, I started my career in the adult business as a dancer and bikini model while remaining involved with music throughout. Then in 1997 I got involved in the adult movie industry where I did my first movie for Jane Waters who is now a dear friend of mine. The movie was for Extreme Associates called “The Pornographer” and it won an AVN award for best comedy. Now I’ve done over 100 movies including many fetish films.

Why choose a career in the sex industry?

Well, why does one decide to work in computers or in an office? They either get into it because they love what they do, for the money, or they don’t know what they want to do. I love sex. I love the entertainment business and I’ve always pictured myself being an entertainer. One that breaks the rules too! I get to live out my fantasies, it just happens to be on camera for other people to watch and enjoy. It’s actually a great job. You make good money, everybody has sex and it’s fun, everyone gets tested monthly for STDs and HIV, and it’s really wild. If you’re smart with your money, the scenes you do, and about the business aspect of it then it can really do a lot for you. But you have to be prepared to piss a lot of people off and you might have to go without a family. They sometimes will not approve and they shut you out of their life so you have to be able to handle that.

I know that you contributed to the album “Porn To Rock” with other porn stars. Can you tell us more about that, and is there is a singing career in the near future for you?

YES! That was fun. There is also a documentary film that is coming out about the making of that CD and about the adult industry starring Ron Jeremy and myself among many other adult stars. Check out www.porntorock.net and as far as my music career, yes I have a new industrial metal band called MANTIS 13 and right now we are recording a CD. Check out info on the band at my website. The Official M13 site is coming soon. I was on KNAC radio on Friday April 13th and if you go to www.knac.com you can check out the show in the archives and hear one of my new songs. I also have pics from the show on my site. The Nasty Neil Show! Check it out!

What are you listening to these days?

Well, I listen to Static X, Soulfly, Rob Zombie, Clutch, COC, Rage Against the Machine, Alice in Chains, Slipknot, Slayer, old Metallica, Ministry, NIN, White Zombie, Babes in Toyland, Perpetual Hypengine, System of a Down, Excel, Type O Negative, Sepultura, Faith No More, and so many more!!!

I know that you did some oil wrestling. Can you give us some pointers?

Yeah I did the oil before going pro. That’s for pussies! I love the athletics of pro and my famous move was my very own “Skull Crusher!” Immediately following a closeline! Oil wrestling is for bachelor parties or at home with your boyfriend.

I’ve seen your fetish pics! What is your favorite fetishism and how far will you go?

My fave is to be tied up and fucked but you can’t do that on film here in America so I just do it at home in my private life. Also I love being a Dom and I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t enjoy smothering and kicking or trampling a poor defenseless servant the best. Yeah I’m a sick puppy! And I love it!

Tell us about your weirdest fan.

One time I got this whacked out e-mail from this crazy guy. I get a lot of that but this dude was really nuts and I had to file an abuse report to get the letters to stop. Other than that my fans are cool. I get nice letters and I do read them.

If you were a donut what kind of donut would you be and why?

A donut!?! Are you kidding? I would never be a donut. I’m more like a whiskey peppercorn steak! Not sweet, just spicy, lots of juices, tender in the middle and with a taste that you’ll never forget.

Does size matter?

I’m not a size queen but most women do care a little bit about size but he doesn’t have to be huge. Me, all I care about is girth and “can he use it?” You gotta have the ass to push it, baby.

Brains or muscles?

I have to be able to carry on an intelligent conversation with a man or can’t spend any quality time with him. And I don’t really like pretty boys or guys that are too buffed! However, big guys with big hands turn me on! And they have to be able to eat like a man. I hate going out to eat with a guy and he orders a soup and salad! I’m a Meat and Potato kinda girl!!

What will you never do?

Gangbangs! Because that is too risky and it does not interest me at all.

What is your favorite sexual position?

Pile Driver, because the cock goes down and right in and it stays harder!

Playboy, Penthouse, or Hustler?

I’ve been in Hustler Erotic Filmguide and did Hustler movies because I wanted to. Larry Flynt Jr. is a sweetheart! My movies appear on Playboy TV all of the time and I was on Sexcetra playing on stage with my old band Blind Suicide, it was fun.

Tell us something about yourself that may shock people.

I played in Texas with the Toadies (I thought we sucked! Haha! A few years ago I did shows with the Ozark Mountain Daredevils, Head East, Molly Hatchet, Foghat, and Shadow Dancer. All over the US. It was crazy!

What was your most embarrassing moment?

I have so many, where do I begin? One time I slipped on stage while in the middle of a scene in a play at my college! That sucked!

What is the sexiest thing you have ever done?

Wow, there are a lot of these moments too! I loved it when I had my lover tie me up to the Ab Roller with my legs up & over it. Then he made me do crunches while he fucked me silly! That was hot! I told you I’m a freak!

What are your plans for the future?

Music! Music! Music! And money.

Leonardo Calcagno, well know writer in Montreal Canada. He’s been writing for local Canadian, Americano and European e-zines and zines in French, Spanish and English for almost 5 years. More known to get hate letters from right-wing housewives and to get into fights with promoters who don’t let him interview bands! You will mostly see him eating tofu dogs and drinking Guinness with his laptop in Montreal writing another article about politics, music and sex. Graduated with a bachelor degree in International Politics with a minor on international law… his parents are still wondering why he took on a life of sex writer! Tattooed with Che, Husker Du and ARA! Played chino-Hispanic punk on Les Kalisses D’immigrant, Trash Blues on Les Tetes Reduites and now stoner rock on Your Sister ! He contributes on Freezerbox.com, Kerozen, Indymedia.org, Stooky.com, Eroticandy.com, Biotech Montreal Action, QuebecTel, Zona de Obra and other zines!

For more of Leonardo’s work, please visit www.montrealnightguide.com and www.montrealconfidential.com